Many seniors lose their self-esteem as they get older. Significant life changes can rock their feelings of control and confidence. Boosting your elderly loved one’s self-esteem can help them live longer safely on their own and contribute to an overall greater feeling of happiness and well-being.
Studies have found that there is a connection between one’s self-esteem and overall health at any age. But seniors after the age of 65 often take a hit to their self-esteem. Some research points to the series of losses (or perceived losses) that can happen in their golden years—like the death of a spouse or friends, retirement from meaningful work, living on a fixed income, or illness or frailty that challenges one’s independence or mobility. These milestones can shake the foundation of one’s self-confidence. But some psychologists argue that seniors who reject the stereotypes of old age fare better when they continue to view themselves as active and their lives as meaningful, despite their advancing years. Bolstering your loved one’s state of mind and giving them a sense of purpose can improve their overall mental health and positive self-image.
Many seniors also experience ramifications to their physical health. Lower self-esteem has been shown to take a toll on one’s body by increasing stress levels. Chronic stress can be particularly hazardous for seniors. They may have difficulty sleeping, increased fatigue, memory issues, raised blood pressure, depression, inflammation, and a lowered immune system. Older adults are already susceptible to illness due to their age. When combining age-related suppression along with low self-esteem issues, seniors can have difficulty fighting off disease and take longer to recover.
Here are 7 ways to boost the self-esteem of an older parent:
- Social Connections. No matter your age, we all want to have strong friendships and close family. Studies show that seniors who are surrounded by supportive family and friends have higher self-esteem. Keeping these social connections strong is vital to their happiness.
- Squashing Negative Stereotypes. Society inundates us with negative messages and images about the aging process. Stay positive when you are around your loved one. Let them know you value their contributions and that you respect them. If they are self-conscious of their limitations, reassure them that their hearing loss or lack of stamina is nothing to be ashamed of. We all have our own limitations in life.
- Strength and Balance. If your loved one is steady on their feet and less likely to fall, they will be more confident caring for themselves and getting around. Encourage your loved one to take a balance class or chair tai chi at a local senior center or offer to walk regularly with them to keep up their strength. A decline in health and strength can easily lead to lower self-esteem and a loss of confidence.
- Ask for Their Advice. Your older loved one is a fountain of wisdom, experience, and advice. Ask them for their input or to help you work through a problem. They may have some good insight on everything from serious questions about relationships to more lighthearted issues like cooking, cleaning, or gardening tips. Being helpful and having a sense of purpose can really be a boost to their confidence.
- Make Their Home Accessible. Many times, a dip in self-esteem is the direct result of the loss of independence. Be proactive by installing handrails in the tub, checking that rugs don’t slip, keep frequently used items within easy reach, and make sure pathways in the house are clear for easy walking. Give them the tools they need to live safely in their home.
- Talk About Current Events. Get your loved one’s viewpoint on the world today based on their personal experience. Showing value for their ideas and input can be a real boost to their confidence. You might not always agree, but you can have respectful discussions.
- Be Compassionate. Try to be patient and understanding when interacting with a senior loved one. Hearing issues can be misinterpreted as a lack of understanding, or less stamina could be misconstrued as stubbornness. They may have some limitations but always treat them with dignity and compassion.
Visit a local Aegis Living community to speak with one of our trained staff who can provide helpful insight into what to expect as your parent or loved one ages. We are happy to show you how we assist our residents with programs and activities that boost their self-esteem and provide a sense of purpose in their daily lives.
